Munafiqun Society

I was sitting down on my couch and having my morning coffee when an elderly couple entered. They had just recently fixed their daughter’s marriage and they came looking for my parents to seek financial help. Father is well-known among his family and friends for being generous. He has helped many people when they needed money. I had always admired this in him. If he has money, he will surely help. Anyway that is besides the point, I wanted to discuss another issue.

The couple had fixed the marriage on the condition of 1.5 lakhs of dowry. That is about 6000 SGD. Dowry is the gift (mostly money or gold) that the bride’s family gives the groom’s family. I am not sure about the other parts of the world, but in Tamil Nadu (South India) dowry has become a pressing issue. I do not know how it started. As a matter of fact, I do not think anyone does. Maybe it started with the rich giving their daughters part of their assets when they send them to the groom’s residence. Over the last century, or more, dowry evolved into a dominating factor for the groom’s. They would only agree to the marriage if they receive the dowry they demand. In a society where marriage is the most important phase of a woman’s life it is hard to argue that the bride’s side should not fall for such compulsion. They just want to get their daughters’ married off.

There have been many serious cases where innocent women have been tortured for dowry even after their marriage. Many of ended in very cruel death.

It is all rather complicated and its hard to answer the many questions in your mind through one blog entry. And, take it from me, you will not understand it from where you are. It will seem uneducated and uncultured. But, when you are among these people, you MAY understand why its all happening. Yes, it has to change, but it will not. Not so soon.
Islam is in no way part of this culture. In Islam, the groom is suppose to give the bride mahar (gift) that he is able to afford from his earning. BUT… in my hometown (in India), which is a Islamic town, people who claim to be Muslims and truthfully pious are asking for dowry! *disgusting*

The couple mentioned that the groom’s side agreed to hold the marriage immediately after they settled the dowry. It saddens me to think that people would be so unkind for the sake of money. Money had blinded a Muslim and his learning. They are going through so much trouble for something they will not be able to take to their graves or after life. It further pains me to think that they old couple have to knock many doors and hope that someone would help them complete their parental duties.

It is all very saddening and frustrating. My hometown has many educated and rich people. It isn by a jamath (governing body) that claims to act by the Holy Quran. Yet, they sit from their thrones and watch something that Allah despises. They speak of the Prophet (peace be upon him) every minute, but they do nothing about putting an end this matter.

Sadly, I am part of this Munafiqun* Society.

Munafiqun (Hypocrites)

Familiar Strangers

I do not get it. This is not meant to be complicated. Why should it be?

I hate relationships, especially friendship. It sometimes complicates things for no reason. Kris was telling me about 'familiar strangers'. We were talking about how friends who are so close became almost strangers. You know when someone new comes into our life, we get so busy with them that we forget the ones who are already in our life? We forget and forget until on day it fades. Yes, that is what we meant by 'familiar strangers'.

Sadly, somethings between someone & I might change. You may want to highlight the might, but it is no use. I am not willing to wait and see if it does change or not. At any point, it will. I think I should just back off now itself. This is just to protect myself. I want to vanish before I fade.

It is not fair for me. Sadly the person succeeded to befriend my ego. Now it gets hard on me.I do not want any complication. I do not want anything going on.I just want to be myself; capable of walking away, alone.

*~~ Hitman ~~*

The movie makes you go

whoah! ; awesome! ; eeeww! ; mmhmm.... ; huh?

The way he escapes from the hotel was pretty cool I must say. And, the way he destroys evidences with the blast. Those scenes that were full of clever techniques would take most of the credits.

For a person, like me, who hates bloodshot scenes that has pieces of brains flying around:
It can get a little disgusting every time he has a gun in his hand. Well that is 80% of the movie :)

I am still not sure why it is just NC16. The lead actress is kind of nude a few times. But, nothing that bad. It is still a highly violent.

Speaking of lead actress. She surely was there to dig into the men's mind and I think she had quite accomplished that. Then again, there were very few scenes so, no further comments.

Hitman was kind of charming. He had a hard smile that can shoots a spark straight into your chest. He does not show body or anything, but he has great arms. The barcode looked a little weird and kind of made no sense. If i am not sure, I hardly saw any use of it. I mean, being a barcode it was hardly scanned.

Maybe those who had played Hitman might be able to understand it better. I was not sure of certain things actually or I was not smart enough to catch it.

Hitman... 7/10

Too late....

We never appreciate the value of anything until we lose it. And, one day we find ourselves empty without it. We come to understand that it is too late.

Just being silly.....

I am not happy with myself. I find myself acting very silly. Honestly, I should kick out such childish behavior out of me. This is unacceptable. I should not be feeling in such a way.Somehow there is no logical reasoning behind such thoughts. I thought I clearly told myself, no such things. Not again. It gets hard. I am so not sure why. Its becoming some kind of burden. An unnecessary one indeed.

Well... I feel like just talking about the day... so..

Woke up around 12pm and got ready. innovateIT has a office now. Seminar Room 3.4
Adit & I went shopping at Sunshine Plaza & Brash Basah Complex. It was nice. New experience.
I really like the way Adit thinks. He was so precise in checking out details and very focused on overall quality. And, of course very smart in decision making.
Oh well, i chose him to be my Vice-Chair for a reason. I am glad with my decision making too.

The freshies were in the office too. They were fun. Very funny. We had good laughter working togather.
Cheng Pei, Fauzi and Nelly. They click well with us. Interesting bunch indeed. They have fun and they are very particular about work. They are like this bunch of all-rounded well-balanced new generation.
Oh and we all planned for the first innovateIT outing on Monday evening. We planning to watch Hitman!
Sounds like a really awesome movie. *can't wait*

Then we all left. Jaan, Vivek & Kristi were asking me to go dinner with them to Macdonalds.
I did not feel like it, so just headed back home

After along time I had good chat with Kris. Catching up on each other's stuff and it was as always nice to talk to him.
He is a nice guy. Someone matured enough to talk to

Then I was talking Kangwei, Mr. 4th President. He was sooooo funny! Teasing him about his love-life-to be.

There is innovateIT meeting tomorrow. We need to release Business Case tomorrow. I am very nervous.
Things are a little messy now and I am a little worried. In fact somewhat not confident. So... ya

And there you go:
I am a very ordinary person who has ordinary life and have ordinary feelings
Beyond the tough, egoistic, practical, hard and hyper person is a very sensitive girl...
I also can write a blog about what happens in my life every day and how I am sad / nervous / worried blah blah